Baggage reclaim online dating
Everything seemed good, except he was back on the dating site.
I couldn’t take it any longer; I didn’t understand why he was looking for somebody else, when everything seemed fine.
Any ‘ole Tom, Dick, or Harry can come along, write whatever they want, and irrespective of whatever red flags appear and behaviours that contradict the words, you’ll stick with the words.
Online dating requires that you marry up subsequent actions with the words and if they don’t match, you should know something isn’t right. 3) You’re superficial I know a lot of people whose vision and brains get clouded when they see someone who looks just how they would like their mate to be – their ‘type’.
But as always, in spite of what was said, some readers insist that it is easier to feel this way when you’re younger, don’t feel like time is running out, or lonely. I’m in my early thirties but I have a mother in her early fifties, and I know many ‘older’ women who are single or dating/in a relationship with varying success, plus of course, I get a hell of a lot of emails from readers, especially in the age groups that feel most stressed about this issue – 40s, 50s, and in some instances, 60s.
I should point out that the ones who are actually enjoying their lives and a relationship are the ones that made a positive decision to spend some time on their own, break old patterns, rebuild their lives, and redefine themselves in a positive, loving context. I am not here to invalidate anyone’s feelings – you feel what you feel, keeping in mind that you are actually able to identify what you feel and attribute the right word to it.
I must admit I did check the site on occasion to double check the profile was definitely not there.
choices you choose to make, and trust me, they are all choices, you only learn through the proof of your actions and what results from them.
Maybe throw in that he’s got a good edumacation (yes I did spell it like that for fun), a great job, nice house, money in the bank and yada yada yada, and all of these things will be focused on, whilst failing to notice that the person is not someone of substance.
Now imagine, going online and seeing someone who looks just like the type of person you’d like to be with…
I was very distressed and didn’t know how to approach him.
As when he was with me everything seemed fine, he was also mentioning moving in together and buying a house down the track. He did have issues, as his long-term partner had left him a year a go, and he had just finished the settlement and child support arrangements.